Sex Worker: Still not asking for it by dyke-recovery
I’m a feminist and a sex worker and i am so very, very sick of the “is it rape or theft if you fuck a hooker?” or the i use to get “You work in a strip club you shouldn’t get pissed off when someone tries to touch you, you’re the one working there”. Sorry but this is a service, not the selling of ones’ body or body parts. We own us, we decide how much we do, NOT the client or patron. We have the same rights as every other woman; to feel safe not only in our personal lives but in our work lives. It is not okay to do more than what is agreed to when paying for a service from a sex worker. If you are told no, you are told NO.
If a banker gets robbed did he deserve it because he is a banker? No.
If a soldier is shot during war, did he deserve to be shot purely for being a soldier? No.
Does a psychologist deserve to be verbally attacked because they’re paid to listen to other people’s thoughts? No.
So does a sex worker deserve to have their services abused purely because they are working in the sex industry? No.
Um I’m pretty sure a “sex worker” is just a fancy term for prostitution so I think that deems your argument invalid
Um actually a sex worker is a prostitute, a stripper, a cam worker, a porn star a porn model, a sugar baby so no my fucking argument is not invalid and if a prostitute says “hey man i don’t do x service” THAT DOES NOT GIVE THE CLIENT THE RIGHT TO DO X SERVICE JUST BECAUSE CLIENT HAS PAID FOR A SERVICE AND IF A SEX WORKER OF ANY KIND INCLUDING A PROSTITUTE SAYS NO THE ANSWER IS NO. “NO” DOES NOT BECOME INVALID JUST BECAUSE THE PERSON SAYING NO IS A PROSTITUTE.
Okay listen I understand where you are coming from, but if a prostitute is given money for some sexual act and then refuses to perform, you’re argument becomes invalid.
So by that logic, if i tell my husband “Yes i’ll have sex with you” but then decide later that actually “No, i don’t feel like sex” he still has a right to fuck me?
Also if a sex worker gets paid for a services but then refuses a service, generally the sex worker gives back the money. If the sex worker refuses the service because they have identified a risk to performing this sex act which is identified as being from the potential client, she can say no and walk away with the money.
Here is a thinker for you!
A man steals a car.
The mean who’s car is stolen then beats that man to death for stealing his car.
Is that fair or is it a violent crime? Because by your logic, this situation would be totally fine.
It is eluding me as to how people are not understanding this. It does not matter what a sex worker is doing or offering, if she says no SHE SAYS NO and you respect that.
And as for the people saying sex work is illegal so raping a sex worker is totally fine sex work is perfectly legal in most of Australia, parts of America and a fair bit of Europe- including brothels, strippers, etc. So while your argument that a sex worker deserves to get raped because she’s providing an illegal service is already completely fucking insane, it’s also irrelevant to a large part of the world since it IS legal.
NOBODY DESERVE TO BE RAPED. Half you people arguing against this very simple concept of “No means No” seem to believe that certain women DESERVE to be sexually assaulted. And for that, you really, REALLY should stay away from women altogether because i fear for our safety around you.
And if you ARE a woman saying sex workers deserve to be raped, then i suggest you take a really good look around you and think If i am wearing this short skirt do i deserve to be raped for men thinking i am ready for a fuck? If your answer is “No i don’t deserve to be raped for that” then DING!DING!DING! you now understand why raping a sex worker is also not acceptable.
You can’t deny that thin privilege works on a scale. A size 4 has privilege that a size 14 doesn’t, who in turn has privilege that a size 24 doesn’t, who yet again has privilege that a size 34 doesn’t, and so on. I’m definitely fat. But I’m not the only fat person in the world, or the fattest person in the world, and my experiences, while true for me, don’t make someone else’s conflicting experiences less true.
Why My Fat Is Different From Your Fat: Some Thoughts On Thin Privilege At Different Sizes by Fat, Fashionable, and Feminist (via fat-grrrl-activism)